31 Mar 2010

Thoughtful Wednesday: I Am Free Willed

As a young woman contemplating about having her first BABY, I don't feel that society is forcing me or expects me to do what I don't want to do.

I recently read from somewhere that society expects women to get married and have children.
I don't think this is always the case. As I am experiencing on my blog many of you are very strong willed women and although you are classified as SAHM (and WAHM) some of you are still running little businesses and big businesses from home.

When I read things like the statement above, it makes me think that some people still think that women are brainless who tend to follow what other people expect them to do. In my opinion I tend to do what pleases me, if I don't want to have kids at a chosen time I would never let society ditacte to me when to do it. I am not like that! I AM FREE WILLED! I see women as the powerful entity in our society; the sanity of humanity!

I would like to be a mummy because there is an instinct deep in me that crave for it, not because I feel pressure from the society. I hope the latter is not the case for anyone of you. Children want love and protection and they shouldn't be a social token. If I listened to the demands of people around me I would have had ten children by now - I am kidding on this point :).

I want to be a mother because it is my own choice and desire.

What do you think about this? Did you feel pressure from society and people around you to get married and have your kids? Please share with me.



  1. I only felt pressure from my heart crying "babies babies babies" and my empty, cavernous womb. Not so much society though. ;)

  2. This is so beautifully stated!

    I agree, children should NOT be a social token or had under pressure. It's not fair to them, and not fair to yourself. Like you, I chose to begin a family because I felt an organic, instinctive desire to be a mom. That urge couldn't be denied, and I knew it was time. :-)

    Great post!

  3. Thanks for visiting my blog! I think the only pressure to have a baby came from myself. Sure people asked if we were going to have one, but no one ever asked why we were waiting so long or seemed surprised that I was waiting. I think that this societal expectation has changed a lot since...well I am not sure exactly when it changed, but definitely since my parents had me. I am now a SAHM, by choice, and am loving it (12 weeks in)!

  4. Yes, I think too many people get sucked into having kids only to have them & never spend time with them. I have always felt the urge to be a mother and knew it was my destiny. Joining you from SITS.

  5. I felt it was time becuse my clock was ticking and I just could not stop looking at babies. I do think society excepts it of us by a certain age...maybe you are still under age? LOVE your blog btw

  6. LoL! Alyssa, I am rocking towards my 30s, now I want the baby but I didn't want to do it before because it was what people were expecting me to do. I tend to do what my heart tells me. I am complex and I like that ;)!

  7. Thanks for stopping by my blog!

    I don't know....as soon as the hubs and I got married, I started feeling the pressure from others. I don't think they were trying to pressure me, but people were constantly asking, "When are you having kids?" Like it was now expected because we were married. We waited until we were good and ready and we have a beautiful son. But it still continues. Now people want to know when we're having more...sheesh.

  8. I never wanted kids...it was not part of my plan...family and friends didn't pressure a lot, but always asked. It is kind of like always people always telling you how tall you are or how short you are...its none of the Biz!

    My mind eventually changed...we had one, waited 6 years and had another. I had the itch for the second one.

  9. That's my motto..."do what pleases you." My husband and I have 7 children...because that is what we wanted. I never let society decide how I should live my life.

    Hugs and Mocha,


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