29 Jan 2011

She Had Us Wrapped Around Her Finger

We are back after five days in Scotland to see the baby :)!

And Amy you are right, the little one had us wrapped around her finger :)!

We couldn't get enough of her and she is the most BEAUTIFUL baby ever!

Her little cries are so sweet to the ears. Plus, although she is just one week old she is very strong and blossoming each minute that passes!

I wish I could share more pictures of her but for privacy purposes I am allowed just the one above. EFF and her uncle, MrBP.
MrBP is so cute and awesome with EFF! We are so ready to go all dovey over our own little one and MrBP is so ready for fatherhood! He was playing and comforting her when she cried for food. And we all had to run to pick her up at a little noise of discomfort, LOL! He is going to be the best father on earth, if I may say so :)!
I couldn't stop photographing him with his little niece - well I couldn't stop photographing the little one with who ever was holding her. She is such a blessing - she peed on me while I was changing her, so I hope that's a Great sign ;)!
Babies are adorable :)! We love her so much.

P.S: Changes are coming to The Baby Plan, I hope you all like it ;)!

24 Jan 2011

She is a girl called EFF!

We have a new baby girl in the house.... By we I mean my sister-in-law!

No, it's not me!

Last night 23 January 2011 at 23.03 my sister-in-law M gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.

The baby wanted to come into the world like a show stopper. She teased her mother from Saturday but it was only after 10 hours of proper labour that EFF decided to graced her mother with her sweet little cry :)!

I am very happy to be an auntie again, but I hope by the end of the year I will be a mother too :)!




P.S: We are going to enjoy the baby's company, therefore I am taking some days off from blogging.

Please stay tuned ;)!

21 Jan 2011

My Mini Checklist To Conception

Disclaimer: I don't want to sound like I am an expert in matter of trying to conceive. I just want to share with you how I try to prepare myself while MrB.Plan and I try to conceive. Since blogging I've come to know that conceiving a baby can take upto one year without any complication in the man and woman. So, my advice would be "If you are TTC and nothing has happened yet, don't despair; just follow some of the information I've listed below and stay positive :)! On the other hand if you are a married woman and you are thinking about TTC then don't delay taking the full plunge if you are 80% ready ;)!

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If you've been following my blog from the beginning of my journey, then you know that I want to stay fit before, during and beyond pregnancy. When I set my final date of TTC, I thought about how long it will take us to put the two things together but never envisaged our journey stretching beyond eight months.

Now that we've been TTC, on-off, for eight months, I sometimes forget the preparation I went through at the beginning. That's why I have to re-visit my checklist and share with those who are waiting to conceive and those who want to become mothers in the near future.

Apart from wanting to become a good mother, in my pursuit of mummyhood I want to stay healthy, fit, fashionable and gorgeous; practically I want to become a yummy-healthy-fit-mummy! So if you are married and want to become a yummy-healthy-fit-mummy within two years from now, then start making your own checklist :)!

My checklist:

1. Set the TTC date: to be mentally prepared I set the date on April 23, 2010. I set that date just for my mental preparation. I was close to finishing my university degree in May, so my mind was ready to become mother if I got pregnant soon after starting to try.

2. Fitness: I wanted to achieve a lean 6 pack stomach. I consider my tummy to be one of my favourite body parts and I don't want to lose that after giving birth - but if it happens then I won't blame myself for not trying to keep it flat. I also want to get back into shape not too long after birth, therefore a year before I decided to switch my baby plan on, I focused on my fitness and health.

I signed up to the university gym. I then concentrated on working out three times a week. I did:

Monday= circuit training or box-exercise

Wednesday= yoga or pilates

Friday= step aerobics or gym

I worked hard to stay within
my ideal Body Mass Index (BMI). I focused on my BMI because muscles weight more than fat and working out I toned up my muscles.

It was during this period that discovered pilates. It is the perfect workout for everyone, especially if you want to stay slender and toned. Plus, it is good to ease pregnancy back pains.

3. Doctor: two months before the go-ahead with the plan I went to see my doctor to discuss my intentions about trying for baby. He did a quick check up, but nothing major. After that he gave me more information about foods that I should eat and not eat during TTC period and pregnancy.

4. Health: I've never taken the contraception pills and I am happy about that. But to eliminate any further chemicals from my system I stopped taking pain killers when I have my menstrual circle back pains - call me obsessed!

Furthermore, I don't drink alcohol or coffee, neither I smoke and I am not on a junk food diet. So I am fairly healthy I must say.

5. Folic Acid: I have a terrible memory when it comes to taking medicines (I've never taken a contraception pill for that reason). Folic acid is one thing a woman of child bearing age and sexually active should consider taking, just in case ;)!

I took folic acid until December, when my last box finished. I am going to buy a new box. This time I am going to buy the double pack because I want MrB.Plan to start taking Zinc tablets. I think I should try to stick to one type instead of changing brands.

6. Laptop, Jacuzzi, Cotton seeds and Briefs: sometime MrB.Plan and I watch movies in bed and the laptop ends up our lap. I've read that laptops on the lap for men can cause male fertility. For this reason we put the laptop on a wooden tray, then on cushion to prevent any direct contact to the lap. I hope that helps a little. I've read that jacuzzi are not good either. Also doctors have researched that cotton seeds can cause infertility in men. Another no-no for the future daddies are briefs. Your man should trade in briefs for boxers ;)!

7. Dentist: If you need to go to the dentist for any eventual fillings, now is the moment. Imagine the pain you will go through while pregnant if you had a bad decay. I went to the dentist last year to complete all the major dental problem, it was painful but worthwhile!

8. Financial Plan: I should set up a baby budget but that can wait until I get the positive sign or the smiling face on a pregnancy test. On the other hand I've set up a life insurance.

9. Stress: this is the number 1 enemy when you are trying to have a baby. I must say, we've been under stress for half of the time of TTC journey. We are still in this stress mode. I believe and pray that February everything will settle into a routine and thus we will stress less!

10. Sex: if you want to get the perfect end result, then you have to get active in the bedroom! When trying to conceive couples become uptight about their sex life. Making love become a duty and the fun goes out of it, leaving both husband and wife stressed out and preoccupied. I've read that getting whoopee every other day starting from six days before your conception date will help the couple conceive :).

11. Enjoy your relationship: in an interview the actress
Thandie Newton said that she wish someone told her and her husband OI Parker to enjoy themselve, go out as a couple more often before having babies. So, let me shout to tell myself and every future parents !enjoy your lives as a couple without children! because once the babies come they are here to stay!

Now few Questions:
For the mothers:
1. How long did it take you to get pregnant?
2. Did you follow any checklist for TTC couples?

For the future married/mothers/TTC ladies:
1. When did you start trying to conceive?
2. Have you decided upon the exact date you want to TTC?



Would anyone of you/or your friends be interested in partecipating a yummy-mummy contest?

Please email me at msbabyplan@gmail.com

19 Jan 2011

Motherhood...

...is going to be on my film-library.
I just heart it!


At a first glance the film is the usual Hollywood flick; with lot of exaggeration about the mental state of a modern stay at home mother (SAHM). The realities seem so horrible that one can quickly say no-way I am going to be a SAHM.

Let's me slow down. ***

The film portrays one day in the life of Eliza, a SAHM, who has to go through a lot. Eliza epitomises motherhood gone mad. She is a total chaos - does she even have a shower on that day? Her position as SAHM is based on the family financial situation - they can't afford to send their little child, Lucas, to a pre-school. Thus she stays at home with him and blogs at intervals about her frustration regarding the lack of adult conversation or writing that are not realistic. She feels trap in a monotone routine.

In the same day she makes the mistake to blog about the intimate comments her single mother best friend makes about her sexual life. The post causes a brief quarrel, but by the end of the day everything is forgotten.

In the course of the day Eliza is presented with an opportunity of a life time. She just have to write a 500wds about what motherhood means to her, this will give her the chance to enter into a competition to be able to write at home. However her daily tasks force her to put aside her writing until the last minute.

It was only towards the end of the film that she smiles and look at her children with the adoring eyes of a woman who carried them for 18 months between the two. She loves them so much that she forgets about herself and her dreams. The underlining message to me is that this putting aside oneself for your children can turn into frustration and annoyance towards them.

Then her husband shows her the miraculous check of $24.000.00 and they life change. She relaxes a little bit. Now, she can take time off being a SAHM to focus on her writings.

In the end Eliza concludes with the beautiful lines:
Motherhood ...is about accepting the limitation of time and energy,
which stretch beyond you,
even though sometimes it feels like they can consume you.

Search for

and hold onto your true self.
To lose that, what kind of mother can you be?

Things are always changing

and no matter how much we might want
things to stay the same...

You could take a picture of your kid every single day

and every single day
they just be getting older...

That's a fact...

a heartbreaking fact...
but it's still a fact.

So cease your days

and dwell on them fully.

Look at your children

because they know how to inhabit
brief periods of time
with extreme passion
and for nothing really
than the sake those moments.

They can help you remember that

if you only slow down let them.

Feel fortunate, because chances are good

that you actually might be.
I liked this movie because there are scenes that spoke directly to me - when the husband tries to give a feedback on Eliza's writing she takes it far too bad. I am exactly like that when I ask MrBP to be honest about my writing... mmm (men don't understand that be honest phrase)!

This film reminded me that, as a woman trying to enter in the realm of motherhood, I naively focus on the good side of motherhood. I forget about the ugly side. But Motherhood reminded me that to be able to enjoy the good times I have to be aware of the ugly times of everything in life.

Motherhood can bring frustration, sleepless nights, headaches and madness. Again motherhood/parenthood brings responsibilities: you are the guardian of a child delicate like a spring flower. You become a rock for someone that needs you more that anything in the world.

But along with the above come pure love. Only if you let that love lead you. For instance is through motherhood that you can appreciate the delicate hands of a child on your cheeks, motherhood makes you cry of joy when you witness the first steps of the baby you carried for 9months. Motherhood makes your ears sharp, so that you can hear the beautiful sound of a little unsure voice when the child pronounce his or her first word/s. Plus, it is thanks to motherhood that we feel our heart ache of joy when the child gives you the tender kisses because for her or him you are the best mother/parent/person in the world.

These responsibility make you a strong person, yet so weak.


For me, motherhood is accepting who you are and knowing that at the end of the hard day there is a bright little smile that lights your dreams and nights.


Now, I am 90% ready to take upon these responsibilities, knowing that at the end of the ugly moments the good times of motherhood are always the most memorable.


May conceiving time begin!

Now some questions:

1. What motherhood means to you?
2. Are you aware of the ugly and good side of motherhood?
3. Are you really, really ready to become a mother/parent?
4. How do you know?

Please share with me :)!



P.S: the next post is MsBabyPlan guide to how to prepare yourself for conception ;)!


18 Jan 2011

Patience Is A Virtue... part 2

Some months ago, I had to go to the airport and my mother offered to take me because she was going near the area. Knowing my mother, I could tell that we were going to be late, but I decided to give her a chance.

The plane was due to take off at 9:40am, and to the airport is about 1hr and 50mins drive, so it was going to be okay leaving at 7am.

On our way there, we talked for most of the journey. She told me about reason she moved from Ghana to come live in Italy. She talked without holding back. She told me that she used to do homemade washing soap and that she is a self taught baker. She told me so many things that I didn’t realise that the traffic was bad.

Time flown away before I notice the clock.

At 8am we were still stuck in a heavy traffic. I was in panic. My mother said "Calm down, everything will be fine, we will get there in time."

I didn’t say anything. I was annoyed but just kept quiet and waited. Thirty minutes later the car hasn't move an inch. I started to freak out. I raised my voice and told "Just take another route... take that side route!"

"We are going to move very soon."

"Just take that side route... I will miss the plane!"

"You have to learn to be patient."

"Well, not today because the plane will be leaving in just one hour's time."

She turned the car and took the side route I suggested. But ironically when we got there the traffic was even worse. Plus the road didn't lead to anyway. It just led us back to some cars behind the spot we drove away from.

"I told you to learn to be patient..."

I smiled to myself and looked outside the car, ashamed.

Yes, I missed my flight but in its place I learnt a big lesson: patience is a virtue!

I am writing this because MrBabyPlan and I are learning to be patient in our life.

For instance MrB.P was very tempted to accept the first offer a guy made for our flat – this guy wanted to knock £40 off the asking price. But I told MrB.P to wait, to be patient and in the end I was right. Waiting has rewarded us with the title of landlords to a lovely couple who want to use our flat as their first place to live together as a young couple.

I am so pleased about the final decision – yesterday after they left the apartment I knew they were the one :)!

GOD IS GREAT!

Now... our prayers is for the protection of the Almighty, to guide us and grant us patience for the coming weeks. We need patience to be able to wait for our visa to Canada without going crazy!

Please everyone pray for us!


17 Jan 2011

If Films Could Explain Your State of Mind...

... then I must say we are ready for parenthood - with a little bit of thriller thrown in by MrBabyPlan :)!

Yesterday we went to the video shop and selected five films, the first one was selected by me:


The Ex


I genuinely thought it was about a couple who break up and one have to win the other back.

Instead the film is about a couple who become parents and they have to learn to compromise with their career choices and their intimate relationship. Added to this the husband has to deal with an obsessive ex, who pretend to be paralysed to win his ex back.

It turn out that the paralyse is fake and liar.



MrBabyPlan selected

Knocked Up... for me he said, LOL!



I knew about the story line of Knocked Up, but what I didn't know is that the guy who was into drugs and silly jobs turned out to be a great dad ;)! A man who was ready to take care of his young family. I guess becoming a parent make some people change into the best.

We still have to watch the following:

Eastern Promises

This one is on the dark side. But, hey, trying to become parents doesn't have to make people turn away from mafia movies ;)! Plus, MrBabyPlan had to choice at least one :)!

Away We Go


Motherhood


I think Away We Go and Motherhood are going to be hilarious. I can't wait to watch them all.


Now, some questions to interact with my lovelies ;)

1. Have you ever watched any of the above listed movies?

2. Has any film ever explained how you feel in a particular moment?

Please show some love :)!
P.S: Please stop by TC30s and read my Be Inspired Monday post, I hope you like it :)!

14 Jan 2011

I Got Awarded... and I awarded 7 bloggers back

The adorable sweet Faith @Life.Love&Marriage just surprised me with my first 2011 award. Please join me thank her so much! I really appreciate this stylish award :)! Thank you Faith :)!


To accept this award I have to share 7 random things about me:

1. I am in Italy since last night until Saturday - business trip :)

2. I am writing a 30minutes play which I need to complete by tomorrow, and I don't know how long it has to be, LOL!
3. I am trying to overcome by magazinolism (my invented word :)- more to follow on this issue

4. I am feeling my old bubbly self again :)!
5. Every time I see my husband, aka MrBabyPlan, I go all dovy. I am in love every day that God bless us with a new light :D!
6. My passion for staying healthy and fit is back :)!
7. I am hard worker but sometimes my laziness let me down, LOL!
Now the 7 stylish bloggers :)
I hope the award brings a smile to you, like it did to me :)

13 Jan 2011

Marriage and Love

I just read this story on ontheverge6.

I had to share it on my own blog. I hope you embrace the love in your life and tell him/her how much you care for them.

I LOVE my husband like the first day we got together and the love is stronger and stronger!
MARRIAGE

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I
held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30%
stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I
had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to
be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for
the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms.
His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling
somewhat upset. I put her down outsidethe door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made
me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on
quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry,Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our
wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -
dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a
relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things
for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.



11 Jan 2011

Just Trying To Be Healthy...

I didn't skip breakfast.
Instead at 8.30am I had two wholegrain weetabix, a handful of blueberries and skimmed milk.


Then around 9.15am I did my first 2011 workout thanks to Billy's Ab-Bootcamp and Live Bootcamp videos. I am out of training therefore I managed to exercise for 45mins with few seconds intervals in between.
I will build up my strength again!

For my snack which happened around 11am, I had 21 cherries! Yum!

For lunch I am having boiled and salted edemame beans :)!
For dinner we will eat spaghetti and tuna-tomato-source.


To be able to focus on my healthy-balanced life I am keeping track of what I eat and the exercises I do on myfitnesspal calorie journal. I downloaded the Apps for free on my IPOD ;)!

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As you can read, I intend going back my healthy-fit-yummy future mummy. That's why today my healthy self pushed aside the lazy me and did something good for the body :)!

How do you keep fit? Do you do a calorie count? Does it help to maintain a healthy lifestyle?

10 Jan 2011

Flat Refurbishment: DONE!

Today the estate agent photographer came to take some pictures of our flat ;(!
I took some myself...
I like the end result... I am quite picky :), so if I say it's nice that means IT.IS.NICE...!

You can see how our flat was before we thought about refurbishing it
here. And also you can see more pictures while the flat was under refurbishment here.

As you can see we don't have anything left in the flat :(!

Now...

...this means that soon we will put our flat on the market for rent.

I am feeling sad, because the time to start thinking about Canada is coming closer each day. A part from the visa - nothing is holding us here ;)! On one hand I am excited but on the other I am very sad because London has been my home for over five years and now I have to say goodbye which is heartbreaking. I felt so much at home because London allowed me to be who I want to be. I did my degree in London and met many good people whom I hope they will be in my life for a long time.

I am strong and I look at the positive side of everything therefore I am excited about discovering Canada and in some extend USA. Practically I want to make the most of the other continent. For instance if now going to Morocco is easy, in our new life going to Mexico will be easy too!

Although I don't like saying goodbye, this time I want to say goodbye to my dear friends because when I see them next time that I am in Europe, I will say HELLO with all my heart! I will have the excuse to say hello again and again to all my friends :)!

P.S: PLEASE, please stop by TC30s to read how you can inspire yourself to reach your goals :)!

7 Jan 2011

Stress and Trying To Conceive

Have you ever felt like God is giving you a new slate on which you can re-write your life story?

Well, I am feeling like that person now.

If you've been following me for sometime, you know that end of January MrBabyPlan (aka MrBP) and I will move to Canada. MrBP was offered a brand new job in Canada and we are planning to start doing loads of exciting activities once there. At the
moment MrBP is very excited about going for skii lessons and I am excited about snowboarding lessons, and photographing our new town.

But, I am not here to talk about our trip because we are still waiting for the visa :(...

I am here to talk about my new mindset on the journey to motherhood - I want to bring in the initial enthusiasm I had about TTC. I want to use the new slate God is offering us a
nd re-focus on the baby plan with all my positive thoughts.

The preconception checklist I researched is tight under my belt. I have quasi-everything tick on the list. Thanks to Taking Charge of Your Fertility I know that eating junk food is not good when TTC. Food such as maionese and shellfish should be avoided, due to raw eggs and shell. I also read the New Pregnancy and Baby book; it's informative but useless because I am not even pregnant! However, I have it's on my to-buy pregnancy books. Eating food such as vegetables and fruit is essential. Also one must drink more water while expecting for de-hydration >:). Practically I have to go back to being healthy and fit MsBabyPlan :).

MrBP is enthusiastic about the whole thing and he is researching male TTC to-do list :)! Now he knows that we don't have to do it every second to conceive, ehehe, LOL! We also know that stress played a major role in the delay - imagine your eggs going up and down the stairs lifting boxes and heavy cupboards while TTC. My were too tired at the end of the day so I guess they didn't want to over-work themselves with a pregnancy. Soon they will not have any excuse and the same apply to the swimmers ;)!

Soon we will have nothing to worry about, but party in the bedroom all night long, ahaha OMG - I can't wait! Plus, I will have time to sit down and enjoy some precious me-times. And if God bless us with health, we will have all the items we want to purchase once we are living our new life.

Throughout the research and from reading your comments, I am aware that stress is a major NO-NO on the checklist. We don't want to stress ourselves too much so we want to wait until our final move to Canada to fully say "We are TTC!" Until then we are enjoying our intimate time together without any aim - at least that's what we are doing this month ;)!

6 Jan 2011

The Confessions of 30something...: Letters to our Young Selves...

"Surely, many of us have been broken hearted before in our younger days. Maybe a cute guy have referred to us as ugly/fat/crater face or worse..." Read more on The Confessions of 30something...: Letters to our Young Selves...:

What would you write to
your younger self if you could write a letter to her?

Today I am blogging @ TC30s, please stop by :)!

5 Jan 2011

Pour Your Heart Out: What's Wrong With The Name Tatiana?

Emhppff! Deep breath!

Nothing, in fact I've become attached to it.

I want to pour my heart about Tatiana - those who email me, know me by that name as well...

So, what's wrong with the name Tatiana?

As I wrote before, nothing... just...

When I started blogging I made the conscious decision to keep my real name and full identity hidden. I didn't mind sharing pieces of my features but my name and full face were going to be top secret. I didn't want my family to know that I am the one behind the blog, plus I didn't want them to think that I was indulging myself online. I guess I was affected by the comment “Blogging about your personal life is just indulgence.” For me, the word indulgence in that phrase had a negative connotation. From the start I knew that blogging is NOT just indulgence but a tool to get things out of the shell. And I hope some people can understand that blogging can be therapeutic.

Most of you know the reason I blog, both for the baby plan and for the many thoughts rummaging in my head...

I shouldn't lose track... where was I?

Yeahap...

I keep my identity ‘undercover’ because I know that there is a freedom in doing so. I can write anything I like and my family can feel protected. However, that freedom can be a backlash. From day one I was so thorough that I used pseudonym for my online accounts. But now I am getting attached to many of you, and sometimes I want to show you a smile on my face or share my real name with the world. My overly protective attitude seem to prevent that and I feel like I am pushing myself into a trap. But I know I can come out from there.

For that reason I want you to know why I chose the name Tatiana Teplan as pseudonym.

The day I was setting up my gmail account I had the first and last initials of my Christian name T.A playing in my mind. It was simply done because T.A ran into TIA-NA, so I invented the name Tatiana Teplan (Tatiana The Plan).

Tatiana proved to be perfect because most of the letters of my real name are all in there. Plus it sounds nice. But my offline name is special, and I hope one day you will all come to know it :)! But for now, Tatiana Teplan gives me the freedom to be me, with all my thoughts out there without judgement.

I felt the need to write about Tatiana so that if one day we meet in real life, you will not be surprise to know that my name is not Tatiana!

I hope you all like me the same, eheh :)!

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4 Jan 2011

Guess Where I Found His Keys?

I couldn't stop laughing after I found them. And thinking about RainSplats wishes, I decided to share the silly place where I found my husband's keys – from now on my Hubby he will be known as MrBabyPlan (MrBP).


Part 1

Background To The Loss Keys

After our Christmas holidays at my in-laws, MrBP. lost his keys for the flat. It was only after we were in the car that he asked “Where are my keys.
Look in your pocket properly; I saw them on the bed.” I said with my pride of knowing it all, LOL!
Okay, I pride myself to have a photogenic memory, LOL, so I scanned my mind for more information but I couldn’t picture where else I saw the keys.
Are you sure you don’t have them in your handbag... every time I lose something I find it in your handbag ;).” He smiled but I didn’t like it. It’s true that I move things around and sometimes I forget where I’ve put them but a set of keys in my bag was not going to be difficult to find.
I am sure, because I saw your keys on the bed. Maybe they fell under the bed.
Okay, I will phone my mum later and ask her to look.
When we got home he phoned his parents, they looked under the bed and around the bedroom but they couldn’t find the keys.


Part 2

We gave up on trying to find them. We were convinced that those keys were lying somewhere very silly. But we didn’t know where.

Can you guess the silly place the keys have been hiding since 27th December? Few minutes ago something made me shake my rucksack and I heard the clink clink noise of the keys. I closed my eyes, dug my hand into the small pocket of my rucksack and viola' the keys were in my hand.
OMG! MrBabyPlan was right, he can find his lost things in my bag! – not always in the handbag, this occasion in the rucksackbag.

I know he’s going to tease me SO. SO. much tonight. I deserve this one :), because my photogenic memory can be defective sometimes, LOL!

Have you ever found something that your husband lost in your handbag? Or a place only you could have put there?


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