29 Mar 2012

Alycia: She Rocks

Hey everyone! I am happy to be here :) My name is Alycia Crowley.
 
TOI posed the question who is the woman in you? Who is the woman in me? That is an interesting question. I think I have a bunch of different women in me, that makes up the woman who I am right at this moment. And the woman I am now, will also change. Let me explain.
What I have learned about myself in my short 23 years of life, is that I will always be growing and maturing as time goes on. Who I was at 16 is still apart of me, as is who I was at 12, and 19... today I am so much more at 23. Women spend a lot of time trying to “find themselves” but one of my favourite quotes explains how “Life Isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself.”
 
I got married at the young age of 20. I like to say 20 ½ ;) you know, buying all the time I can get! Haha Everyone has an opinion about when and when you shouldn’t get married. A lot of people felt like I was getting married too young. People expressed that “You can’t know who you are this young, what if you grow apart and become different people?” or “Are you sure you are done being selfish and giving up that independence?”
These questions kind of surprised me when I sat and really thought about them. Did getting married mean I was going to loose my independence? Was I really going to change THAT much?
The truth is, when you get married you do have to compromise with each other, but you in no way have to loose your independence! The compromises are doable because you love the other person you are with, you want to make them happy. Making them happy, makes you happy. But, you also need to make yourself happy. Finding the balance is what makes a great marriage and a great partnership. Make sure you can do that before you get married, or make sure it is something you both are working towards.
The other truth is... YES, you WILL CHANGE! To think that you won’t change as you get older is crazy. To think you can’t stay in a healthy and wonderful marriage because of this, is also crazy. We will always be changing and growing, and so will our spouses. The key is to make sure that we stay on the same page the whole way. The key is to GROW TOGETHER.
This might seem like a scattered post but sometimes  people in relationships or their marriages might feel like they have lost their identity, or their independence. You don’t have to loose yourself!
Make it a point to have the type of relationship with someone (or yourself!) that ENCOURAGES you to work on yourself, that encourages you to find things that make you happy! Is it a hobby, a job, friends that you need or want? The list goes on and on.
The more you find that happy balance in your life, in or not in a relationship, the closer you become to being truly happy, and the type of woman you want to be. With age you grow more and more into yourself. Enjoy the journey by creating growing opportunities, within your relationships with loved ones and friends, and most importantly, YOURSELF.
One thing I love about blogging is the community that it brings among us women. We are all independent, smart, forward thinking woman, who have carved out a little space for ourselves in this big online world. Continue growing in the direction of the woman you want to be, and before you know it, you will be her, and she will just keep on getting better!

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Alycia blogs over at Crowley Party, where her and her hubberz live life as a party, because they think life should be a party, and be celebrated, they try to do just that. Her blog is a lifestyle blog, highlighting the things she loves, her family, fashion, crafts, food, and whatever else she is interested in!

5 comments:

  1. Great guest post! I loved the energy that Alycia put into the post!

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  2. Great post! I've been with the same person since I was 14 years old... almost 26 years now and we just grew together but I still consider myself independent and I never felt like I lost myself.

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  3. Excellent guest post! I agree with her points, you have to be able to encourage you to work on yourself. I think that's what keeps everything fresh and inviting in a marriage. I also go married "young" at 23, but I already knew what I was looking for.

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    1. I married at that age too and he is supportive, encouraging me to pursue my dreams.

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