24 May 2012

K. Elizabeth: She Rocks

I Rock

I’m a rockstar!  No, I’m not talking Kelly Clarkson, Pink or Melissa Etheridge rockstar.  Although, I do perform a pretty rendition of Old MacDonald Had A Farm at bedtime every once in a while.  Even still, I’m a rockstar.  And I mean that in the most humble way one can say that without coming off as overly cocky.

You see once upon a time, I was teenager who dreamed of studying fashion and journalism.  My life plan was to go to the college of dreams, graduate at the top of my class and move to New York.  I would get a job working at one of the major fashion houses and a part-time gig as a writer.  I didn’t want to start off at high position fresh out of the gate.  Instead, it was always my goal to start off at the very bottom and work my way up.

This way I could know what each job entitled and why they were so important for a company to run because one day I would have my own brand and company to run.  I wasn’t playing on having any kids.  Honestly, the scars of my childhood were so deep and fresh that I believed I’d suck at being a parent.  I swore to my family that I would donate a few eggs to science and then get my ovaries removed.  Heck, I didn’t even want to get married.

Well, life must have really gotten a good laugh out of that one because here I am ten years later with two amazing, intelligent and beautiful children.  And my husband and just finished celebrating our first wedding anniversary and the anniversary of our steady over 7 years ago.  I’m telling you life has a sense of humor for sure.   But I’ve learned to roll with the punches.  And that’s why I rock my dears.

You see a lot of times people don’t roll with the punches.  Instead they step in to them and allow themselves to get knocked down.  Then they stay down.  Not me.  I’m not that person.  I refused to be that person who steps right into a punch.

I did go to the college of dreams.  I was named Suma Cum Laude of my class and I studied fashion.  Now, did I move to New York and get a job at major fashion house?  Nope, but I did land my first job in the fashion industry working a major retailer.

Do I have a part time gig writing?  You better believe it!  I write all this to say that when life gave me what some people would call lemons, I made lemonade.  Yes, a few of my plans changed but I didn’t let that stop me from reaching my ultimate goals.  

I didn’t allow what I was to stop me from being who I was.  And for moms and wives that can be difficult.  We try to be everything to everybody and always put ourselves on the back burner.  Take it from me, putting yourself last is not worth it at the end of the day.  I almost got caught up and almost gave up on my dreams.  On who I was and wanted to be.

I found myself miserable because I was constantly frustrated that I was helping my loved ones get their success while mine hung in front of my face just out of reach taunting me.  Finally, I woke up and smelled the coffee.  It was okay to have my own individuality.  At the end of the day, the roles that I play-mom, wife, sister, daughter, friend- don’t define me.  I define them.

And while life still throws me punches, I’m better equipped with rolling and dodging them.  I urge you to do the same.  Don’t let the events, situations and changes in your life break you or define you.  Instead, define them and use them as stepping stones because you rock too!

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K. Elizabeth is a wife, mother of two and writer/blogger.  She shares her experiences in motherhood and love for fashion on her blog YUMMommy.  She’s also co-authored This Is How We Do It: A Survival Guide For Busy Moms and was number two on Jet Magazine’s ‘Must-Read Blogs For Black Moms’ list.

9 comments:

  1. This woman right here definitely rocks. She is always straight forward. You can tell she is a strong and diligent woman.

    That last paragraph is on point! Perfect.

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  2. I am happy to feature her on my blog, she def rocks!

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  3. I loved reading this!!! She totally rocks in my book. Heading on over to check her out :) xoxo

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  4. I definitely love that your made lemonade and you
    Are making it
    Happen!!

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  5. Great post! I think a lot of people look back and think about how the present differs from the plans that were made in the past. My life is so much more amazing than I ever could have imagined! When life give you lemons... :)
    Thanks K. Elizabeth! You definitely do rock! :)

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  6. I love her tenacity. I have been following her for nearly two years and she has always stayed true to herself. That is to be commended.

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  7. You definitely rock K! Kudos to you for your awesome-ness :)

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