3 May 2012

Mimi: She Rocks

I’m a champion of the half full glass, and I’m pretty sure I came out of the womb loving life, people, beautiful places and fine things. In my early twenties I indulged myself in all of the above. I took time out to learn about myself, enjoy my friends, travel and treat myself to my heart’s desire.

I was 26 when I had my first child, and I somehow believed that my old life would calmly retreat and allow my new life as a doting mother and wife to emerge. I threw myself into my roles as a working mother and wife and thrived for only a short time before I began to feel that I was slowly being choked of life. I was living a sham. I stopped talking to my friends, I didn’t go out, and my life was my husband and son. It took me a while to realize that I had forgotten about me and as a result I slowly started to slip into a dark place.

See. I never dreamed of motherhood. I saw myself living in New York being a career woman who wore Louboutins, shopped at Barneys and travelled to the most exotic of places and then I met my husband and things changed. I wanted the family life, I wanted the picket fence and when it happened I felt like a part of me died.

Over the years I have learned that I am an integral part of the equation. If they need me at my best, then it is important that I take time for me.

No it’s not always easy, and it helps that I have a supportive husband, but there are times when I have to put my foot down and take a stand for things that involve me. I refuse to get lost in the shuffle. Before I was a mother and wife I was this lively person and it took an epiphany for me to realize that I could still be that person and a great mom, and a great wife, and a great friend and an entrepreneur and a wine drinker, and a carpool driver and a homework checker and……you get the idea!

If you find yourself in the rut of being a mother or wife or that everything to everybody take out the time. Carve out alone time. If you’re married and your spouse isn’t on board, get them on board. If their well being isn’t an option neither is yours. I really want women to be more empowered over the things that concern them and stop letting others dictate if and when they can care for themselves, where, when and how they can go and how long they can stay when they get there. People can only do what you allow. In my house certain things are not up for discussion. Now that we are over the learning curve all of us have benefited greatly from the adjustments.

Thrifting, social media, reality television, and hanging with the girls are my vices. What are yours? Even if it’s only for an hour a week, I urge you to make time for those seemingly small things. The reality is they make a huge difference. Trust me. I know.

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mimiphoto Mimi is a wife, a SAHM, an entrepreneur, a God Lover, a fashion and beauty fanatic, lover of everything fab and chic. She burns cupcakes and remix recipes. She is best at what she does.

and she blogs about all the above at Lipgloss and  Binky

you can also contact her at mimi @ lipglossandbinky.com

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9 comments:

  1. I'm glad you shared this. I think this needs to be a topic that is discussed more because many mothers often feel this way.

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  2. She sounds like a lovely person. I am very glad that you shared.

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  3. I love this!!
    Toi, this is such a great series and I am so enjoying how other women get back to enjoying "self" after motherhood. It is definitely a journey that needs balance.

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  4. It's empowering to know we can wears many hats without losing ourselves! This was a great reminder...thanks Mimi:-)

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  5. It's something I hear time and time again with mothers. So happy that she takes the time to nuture herself. It only makes her a better person overall. xoxo

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  6. Wow this was very insightful and certainly great advice for me and all those who are trying to find the balance in all aspects of our lives

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  7. Mimi, we may have been separated at birth!! I just knew I'd be the NY career woman. LOL! It is so important to not forget you in the everyday of life. It's so true that you can wear many hats and still stay true to you. We just have to make that a priority! Great post!

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  8. Great post! It is so easy to take on so much and forget to take time for ourselves! But it is essential for our health and wellbeing! :)

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  9. I resonated with this so much, Mimi. I know that 'dark place' all too well. I learn, not even that long ago, that you have to be at your best, so you can give others just that - your best. And a happy mom makes happy kids.

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