3 Oct 2012

When Baby #2?

i am re-reading some of my previous blog entries. the entries i put in when i believed nobody was reading my blog and i was secretively getting ready physically and mentally to embark the journey of TTC (trying to conceive).

i am thinking when is the right time to start trying for a second baby.

okay, don’t get me wrong.

my daughter gives me more work than two kids put together but deep in my soul i feel like i could be already to give her another sibling sooner than later, because the more i wait the more i feel like i am never going to be ready to TTC for a second baby.

though i had a wonderful pregnancy [felt more sexy during those period than ever before] and had a great birth and i love my daughter and i am already a mother i can’t jump voluntarily on the wagon when it comes to TTC for baby #2, i have cold feet! then again that’s how i felt with baby #1.

i’m not one of those ladies that dream of giving birth every year if they could. i take my hat off for them ladies who can take care of more that three kids. i don’t know if i will be able to handle two kids; but when i watch how sweet and darling my daughter is when she plays with other babies/children, i want to give her a sibling because they will be so sweet together

scenario: one screaming, while one is standing on a high chair. meanwhile i am sweating and pulling my hair off

though i feel a great panic when i think about it i would like to start getting ready physically and mentally to TTC for possible baby #2 due 2013!

QUESTION: when did you decide for baby #2? were you or hubby ready?

22 comments:

  1. Neither of my pregnancies were really planned. However, I can say that I was truly terrified at being a mommy of two. It's double of everything, but in the end I wouldn't trade my kids for the world. In some ways, I don't think we ever feel completely ready when it comes to bringing life into this world.

    My advice would be to get yourself ready physically and mentally. Then, when you're more at peace with the idea of TTC a second time, go for it.

    ReplyDelete
  2. It's a tough question. I'm a happy only child so the thought of two ihas always been intimidating. But I'm an older mom also who feels like she should give her child a sibling. I just wish for clarity some time soon.

    ReplyDelete
  3. When I was giving birth, the one thing in my mind is HOW do people say "Ok I want to do (this) again" lol Then I realized all the joy it brings and how quickly that pain goes away. I don't think we will be "ready" but but based on our first experience (which I just wrote about coincidently...) we have learned to just let things happen and adjust. One thing for sure is that we would love to give our son a sibling. Best wishes on TLC. :-)

    ReplyDelete
  4. I didn't decide when to have baby #2. Baby #2 decided when it was ready. LOL! My husband and I were NOT trying to get pregnant, yet here I sit, with a 21 month old diva daughter, and 36 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. I was SHOCKED when I found out I was expecting again. Absolutely, knock-me-over-with-a-feather shocked, and scared. Yet, now that I've seen how much my daughter has grown, I really think if I weren't pregnant right now, I would WANT to be. If that makes sense? So now that the dust has settled, I'm so happy to be weeks away from having my second child. I'll let you know how it REALLY is once he's on the outside. LOL!

    ReplyDelete
  5. this is exciting! :) i think based on this post you actually are ready for baby #2

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. i am so scared, but if it happens i will happy, so i am getting ready physically and mentally (by voicing it is my therapy to ready state)

      Delete
  6. How exciting. I'm sure you'll jump right in and adjust to two babies.

    ReplyDelete
  7. This is such a hard question for every mom! With me, I knew I wanted my first two at least 2 years apart, closer to 3 years. I was trying for my VBAC, so I also had some time constraints (they recommend you wait at least 18 months between births after a c-section). When my oldest was approaching his second birthday, we TTC and it happened on the first try (praise God!). My boys are 2 years 7 months apart. I will say this, after having the first two at that age gap, we will be waiting until our baby is almost 3 before TTC for #3. I learned that it is NO FUN to have a toddler who is ready to potty train and have a newborn. I want this current little one out of diapers and in a big boy bed by the time the next one is born. That way we can move our two boys in to the same room, only need one crib and have the nursery ready and waiting for our next little bundle. Hope that helps! :)

    ReplyDelete
  8. such a tough question...I too get freaked out when I think about adding another baby to the mix, but yet I also know that we WANT another baby. We're thinking that we'll start TTC around this time next year which in a perfect world would mean Elyse & her younger sibling would be 2 1/2-3 years apart..of course, God certainly may have other plans for our family!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. i would like AOI's younger sibling to be max 3 so she will be in pre-school full time :)

      Delete
  9. My husband and I just started trying for baby #1...so I'm afraid I won't be much help in this matter.
    But I do know that you are a GREAT mom and baby #2 will be so incredibly lucky to come into your family! :) How exciting!! Yay!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. thanks for your lovely compliment. congrats on the TTC baby dust on your and hubby's way :)

      Delete
  10. When my oldest was 1 year I was ready for number 2. That cute baby stage goes by so quick.

    ReplyDelete
  11. I wasn't quite ready for #2, nature kind of made the decision for me (happy whoops!). once I knew another baby was on the way, I just got ready. moms do it like that. yes, there are days when I feel like I'm going to lose my mind. my oldest is a handful and she'll be putting things in the toilet while I'm trying to comfort her crying baby brother. but those moments pass. it's all about how you handle the stress. scream or laugh?

    ReplyDelete
  12. Awwww TOI, I think it is so normal to have these feelings and be scared but I always remember my mom telling me that God doesn't give you anything that you can't handle. And like Faith said if you are wondering then you are probably ready :).

    I always wanted my kids to be about 2 years apart. By the time my first was 1 year we were ready and now I have two kids 2 years apart. It's hard work but it is so rewarding and somehow you definitely find the strength. I wouldn't have it any other way. The first months with the new baby are just flying by.

    We are done TTC, we want one or two more kids but we'll just let God decide for that one (after fiercely protecting for a year of course :)).

    Good luck to you guys, whatever timing you decide to go with will be what works best for your family.

    ReplyDelete
  13. Awww...you're doing so great with AOI and I know you'll be just as awesome with another baby.
    I can certainly understand what you're saying. I don't think I was fully ready when I found out I was pregnant. And even after I did, I still have occasional doubts. Like "I hope I don't end up on TV as a runaway mom cause I can't handle it" or "I hope I fall in love with the baby just as others have said I will"...the thoughts just keep going through my head.
    What's helped me has been talking to my husband. He always knows just the right words to say to keep me encouraged and get me through my self doubt.
    AOI is a lucky girl eitherways!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. you are going to fall in love so much with the baby, you will find yourself staring at hers or his cute face and your world will really be in a room :)

      Delete
  14. My second was an accident. I was pregnant when my oldest was 4 months (I stopped nursing and went back to work when he was 3 months). I think it was a great accident because I would've listened to others' opinions about starting to try after he would've turned two. If we didn't have him accidental-style, I would've started to try once he turned 12-15 months just so he could've been 2 when the bundle arrived.

    The way we 'did' it was more adventurous for us and has kept us on our toes. Plus it was God's plan so we're just along for the ride.

    Pray pray pray and go with the flow. Whatever happens, God's gotcha!

    ReplyDelete
  15. I'm sure Baby#2 will make his or her presence known just like Baby#1....I think God makes it happen when you least expect it...stress is never a good thing and I'm sure AOI will be an awesome sister:-)

    ReplyDelete
  16. This post gets me so excited! We've actually been talking seriously about our #2... I don't think it'll be a long wait. :) We agreed we wanted them no more than 2.5 years apart. :)

    ReplyDelete
  17. There is a 2.5 year gap between our kids, but we sort of just knew around Liam being 18 months that we were ready to try for another - it took 5-6 months of TTC to actually get pregnant so there you have it. I love the 2.5 year gap - God knew what he was doing with that ;)

    ReplyDelete

I LOVE COMMENTS!
Yes, I L*O*V*E them and look forward to receive great advice and encouragement. Let me know you are here, just write hi :)

THEODORA OFOSUHIMA © 2009-2014. All rights reserved. Seek Permission Before Reproduction. Powered by Blogger.
Designed By Boutique-Website-Design