First off, I want to thank TOI for allowing me to be part of the She Rocks Series!
I’ve always been independent. I went off to college at 18 and never moved back home. I took care of myself from then on, having my own money and buying anything I needed. I was proud of myself for doing my own thing; a lot of friends from high school were still living at home and not going to school. As a young girl my Grandma would always tell me to be independent and not rely on a man to take care of you.
I got married and moved 12 hours away from family and friends. I knew I still had to do my own thing. I love to spend time with my husband, but I wanted to meet new people and find something that I enjoyed doing. I felt like I needed to keep busy from dwelling on missing my family. I have always loved to read so I joined a book club with a friend from work. It was nice to get out of the house and mingle with other ladies and build new relationships.
Since having our daughter, I have to admit, I don’t do much for me, being a working Mommy I feel guilty leaving her. A couple things that make me feel good is getting my hair done or buying new clothes. I am starting to finally read again and plan things with friends to do things for myself. Motherhood has been a big adjustment; it is hard to balance being a wife and mother and still finding time for you. I find planning things when my daughter is sleeping or even meeting up with a friend for lunch during the work week makes it so much easier to do things for myself. I am lucky to have a husband that supports me for being me, weeks after our daughter was born, he pretty much kicked me out of the house, he told me to just go to the store, I did not want to leave our daughter, but was exhausted and he could tell I was getting cabin fever. It felt so good to get out and do something on my own even if it was just for an hour. It is important to keep your individuality no matter what stage of life you are in, I think for me, it’s been very hard since becoming a mother but I don’t want to lose who I am as an individual, after all my daughter isn’t going to be at home forever!
Jessica is a twenty something mother and wife. Married to her husband for over two years after dating for 10 years. After almost a year of trying her and husband extended their little family with the addition of Aryana, their adorable daughter, born May 2011. She documents her life journey at Pregnancy Journey.