I’ve hinted that this week hubby is in Ghana. While we are enjoying –20 degrees, he is enjoying +30 degrees.
When he is away for work trips I have chance to reflect on life as a parent and wife.
For instance two weeks ago, while hubby was in Alberta for work, I was left alone to look after AOI who was sick, and for the first time I felt like a real mother…
I know that from the moment my child was placed in my arms, I became a mother but two weeks ago I felt the real meaning of motherhood. Be responsible 100% of this little delicate being. For one thing I felt powerless in front of the pain she was going through due to her fever. And another thing, I didn’t have hubby to take turns with me to look after her.
It was the very first time since becoming a mother that I had to be responsible for my daughter 24/7. When hubby is in here, after work he looks after our little darling while I write, cook or do something for myself. That week I had to cancel most of my personal weekly activities.
I had to comfort her when she was uncomfortable. The
first three days whole time hubby was away breast-milk became my saviour. I was the human comforter. A part of me was afraid she might not self sooth after that week but the other part wanted some sleep and peace of mind and most of the time what helped was mummy’s special milk. I was not allowed a time out throughout the day but only when we were both sleeping at night.
I felt overwhelmed by the enormity of my role and I had too much time to ponder on
- the pros and cons of single parenting
- the importance of a father in a child’s life
taking up friends offers to look after AOI while hubby and I take time ‘out’ from parenthood to build up a strong relationship
- the importance to have an individual ‘me’ time (for both hubby and I)
booking a massage and pedicure session
We’ve already completed two points from the above five points.
Once again, as I mentioned above, hubby is on a work trip to Ghana and I have to be responsible of AOI 24/7. This time around I don’t feel overwhelmed. We are enjoying our mother-daughter bonding time. We are doing very well with our daily routine and I would like to follow that even when hubby is back.
Questions: Have you ever been in the situation where you had to be responsible of your child/children 24/7 or close to that time period? How did you feel? What motherhood means to you?
you are allowed to answer even if you are not a parent yet